When parents divorce, then suffering children. distinctions have histories, there are disputes, communication problems and tensions which are suffering, especially small children.
The small Young, from which I write here will be in June, three years old. Let's call him Benjamin *. Benjamin has been an exciting children's lives behind. His mother, he was taken away immediately after birth. He was allowed in the womb to experience the intense anguish of the mother before birth because it was clear at the Youth Office:
The child is in foster care. Made known to science: stress in the womb before birth affects on the mental development. It is also known that a newborn child, the voice and the smell of his parents know. It has in some way already an "idea" future of his small environment. Saying that even for a newborn, the separation is directly after the birth of mental stress. Those who know the research results for the mental and physical health in terms of breastfeeding know also that the cessation of breastfeeding immediately after birth also an intervention in a healthy mental and physical development. One would assume
that such intervention is made in the life of a mother and a newborn only if the welfare of the newborn child is in acute danger. Unfortunately, there are always cases in which employees of this agency to make this operation as soon as they suspect that at some stage in the life experience of the child's best interests at risk. This assessment depends entirely on the attitude and the personal preferences of each employee from supervising youth office .....
Back to the case, "Benjamin"
could thus go the surrender of Benjamin after the birth of the foster parents smoothly, the mother was at the initiative of the youth office brought forcibly to a psychiatric hospital and had forced a Caesarean section over the endure. Although the mother refused: the doctors of the psychiatric clinic, the youth welfare office have supported. After all this there still achieve good extra earnings by - with the good cooperation - from social services in family court as "expert" recommended in family court proceedings be ....
(This here be no mistake: the story of "Benjamin" is one of those individual cases which are reported by those affected, so that is to be hoped that this case represents an "inglorious" exception to the rule.)
The foster parents, who had ardently desired to have a child, of course, very pleased with the newborn. The little Benjamin was allowed to meet his mother only when accompanied by his foster mother. In order to learn from the beginning of little Benjamin could also, that now should be his "real" parents, the foster parents, the Youth Office has allowed the mother to caress her little boy and a hug. Although he had fallen in the game was .... comforting reserved only for the nursing mother.
The "luck" of the Pfegefamilie did not last long. They began to argue, to say, they lived apart and get divorced now.
The foster mother moved with her foster child to Northern Germany. Whether she is leaving so much, because she hopes that there the little Benjamin could at least be safe from the desired contacts Visited his mother? Because it has so far given no rest. She has not realized that they may not be a mother for her child. Again and again they moved the youth office to my body. She fights in court and they do not give up. The visiting contacts it made difficult:
sent the youth office has placed her three children scattered. Three youth agencies are responsible and the mother is left as it applies the money to buy the expensive trips to visit her children for finance purposes. If they had no money to check out and pay the travel expenses could not have pleased the youth services. The report was then: "The child's mother has not made a visit Contact Us. Of course there is not that the mother carry the longed contact could not visit because they had not the money ride.
The visit contacts were for the mother not just beautiful: How should a parent contact touch with their child when the foster mother and the youth welfare office worker sitting next to it constantly, every word, every gesture and negative comments. No wonder the youth office at some point began to write that the visits are stressful for the child somehow .....
Now Benjamin pulls with his foster mother in northern Germany ..... His siblings Benjamin has no contact. What for? There is no right of a child, along with his brothers and sisters to be great, even if some adult home or foster children to talk after the fact that they had stolen from them their "family" life .....
Quite naturally, it is assumed that parents are to be replaced just like that. Parents from the life of a child may be wiped out. to serve legal terms, this all seems just the welfare of children. At least, argues the juvenile office and the Vormündin in this form.
If the former nursing and home children make as adults, then questions or fret about the fact that they were not allowed to grow up together with their siblings or know their brothers and sisters hardly the parents who have always loved, for they have become strangers then this was perhaps a past life to the child's interests ??...... Unfortunately, no one is interested
of how to feel the "alumni." Those who through the child welfare decisions , Make that make clear from adult view. Many has hidden the children's perspective forever.
Fortunately, there are youth services and youth welfare office staff, who see even with children's eyes and let your child's heart and hear with ears of children. Those which had been given such luck should even think about his (r) / their (r) Social workers / social worker once to say "THANK YOU" .......
For Vormündin Benjamin is all right. She believes that her ward is best served with divorce his surrogate family. The substitute family - she writes - found a good solution, and the child's mother left out.
would be happy to replace the nut with the foster father. Use of such opportunities she has always dreamed: For, according
Vormündin foster father may see the child regularly every 14 days over the weekend and even two weeks together with him and the substitute care-grandparents spend the summer on Borkum .....
for the Youth Office and the happiness of the children Vormündin Benjamin is secured. Whether that Benjamin later once we see?
